50 Things to Know Before Having a Baby

Here is a list of things of things that people have told me or I would have liked to have known before I had my little bundle of joy.  I hope they help you too! I am just a first time Mom, not a doctor, so not all my information may be accurate.  I am writing these tips as a new Mom with a two month old.   I have been very lucky to learn many of these tips from friends and family. Growing up I was not around children often. This is advice that I would give any friend or relative that will soon be a proud Mom.  This information may be different for everyone but I hope my experiences will help in one of the best events of a person’s life.  I hope you read this information and collect other information to make your own decisions.   If you are currently experiencing physical pain during your pregnancy remember the time will end.  You are slowly creating life!    By the way, if you are trying to conceive  you can buy test strips on amazon here.  They are much cheaper than at the store.  They sell ovulation test strips too.  

Doctor Advice

You will be visiting the doctor more often as the time comes
 

1. Write Down Questions

During the week you may have many questions, but when you get to the doctor you may forget them in your 10-minute appointment. I had so many questions thought the week, but when I went to my appointment I would forget or be too afraid to ask most of them.  Ask your doctor about parenting classes.  We found a free class at a local hospital.  The best part of the class was seeing a new infant being washed for the first time.  This class helped with some of our fears. If you don’t have time to fit a parenting class in your schedule, that Happiest Baby on the Block DVD may be something that you can watch when you have time.  If you don’t like taking prenatal pills because of their size, you can take a spoonful of liquid prenatal plus instead.  Heading Home with Your Newborn is advice from actual doctors that is a good source if you forgot to ask some important questions.  Do You Have Any Questions?: A Woman Doctor Answers the 100 Most Asked Questions About Pregnancy 

Learn

The more you know before the baby arrives the easier it will be
 

2. What Comes Out the Morning After Giving Birth

 It may feel like a heavy period after you give birth.  They provided me with heavy pads, ice packs, and a spray for the brush burns that I had down there.  Just be aware that may different things can occur.  A C-section may have different effects on your body.  You may get a heavy first period around 6 weeks after birth. This may be different for every person. Keep those extra giant maternity pads that they give you when you have your baby because you may need them in the future.

3. Wedding Ring

Your wedding ring may become may be too tight to wear like mine.   To make myself feel better to wear another ring on my ring finger while my hands were swollen.  They may not fit for a couple months after either. Here are some more Taboo Secrets of Pregnancy: A Guide to Life with a Belly.   

5. Perineal Massage

Learn how to prepare the perineum for delivery.  “If you’re moving into your last trimester of pregnancy, chances are you’ve heard something about perineal massage—the practice of gently stretching the skin between the vagina and the anus in order to “condition” the tissues for birth. The theory is that having a more stretchable perineum lessens your chances of tearing during delivery, and that it may even help you avoid an episiotomy” (BabyZone.com).   This may help reduce tearing or the need for an episiotomy. Here is a book on Massage for Pregnancy.  An another book to Get Through Childbirth In One Piece!: How to Prevent Episiotomies and Tearing.  

6. The First Two Weeks Home

The first two weeks were hard for me and my partner.  My body was making big changes in a small amount of time.  Someone told me the first two weeks are the hardest but after that you will be fine.  I agree with that statement.  So just be mentally prepared because as hard as you try before pregnancy your body won’t be in the best physical shape right after having a baby.  You need to take care of yourself.  Along with taking your medicine, you need to take care of yourself.  Try  to change comfortable pajamas every day.  Also, try to shower every day. A shower will give you time to relax.  Once you will take a shower you realize how much it was really needed.  I also put a little makeup on each day to make myself feel better.  Remember to brush your teeth too! Here is a guide to 50 Things to Know in the First Year of Parenthood.  It would not hurt to read this now while you have time.   

7. GET HELP!!!

Just because someone comes over to watch the beautiful one for a while does not mean you failed!  It takes a whole village to raise a child is not just a saying.  Everyone benefits from you getting help including your baby, your helpers, and you!  Get Dad involved early by having him read some funny books on the subject.  Dads guide to pregnancy for dummiesDude!  You are Going to Be a Dad,  or The New Dad’s Survival Guide is a good start.  These Pregnancy Bible Verses may be a help too.  

To Do

Try to do these before the last month of pregnancy.  I really slowed down then.  You want to concentrate on resting and being healthy the last month.

 

8. Read Up on Breastfeeding

I tried breast feeding and even with lots of help it did not work for me.  I feel if I would have read some books about people who tried to breast feed for the first time I may have done better. Breastfeeding made simple was recommended during my pregnancy from a friend. You may want to know how to make more milk, the natural laws of nursing mothers, or how to problem solve when things don’t go as planned.  I tried to breastfeed and it only lasted about a week.  I used a breast pump for two more before changing to a bottle.  The more information you have now the better. 

9. Go on a Baby Moon

Enjoy your partner outside your house. I went to Vegas for a friend’s wedding.  Even complete one more of those bucket list items:  I went to Vegas and had a Frozen Hot Chocolate from Serendipity.  Can’t get to serendipity yourself?  Buy yourself the gift set.  

10. Read or Watch The Happiest baby on the Block

Either we lucked out, or we had some great tips from this book.  My husband and I were never really around babies and the tips we got in this book really seem to work when our child cries.  I think this is one of the key reasons we have done so well to this point. We use the Sleep Sack to swaddle.  They now also have woobies to swaddle without arms.     If you don’t like to read, you can find links on watch the Happiest Baby on the Block DVD with your partner.  Then send the link to your husband. 

11. Make a Get Out of The House Plan

You need to get out of the house!!  Yes, maybe a week or two is ok after you little one is born to get some sleep and learn your babies habits.  But the sooner you get out the better.  If you think about places that are safe to start before you give birth this may help.  Grocery shopping, coffee shop, woman’s group, a friend’s house, or possibly church.  I started out by going to a friend’s house.  Then church. View pregnancy discussion boards for help.  You are not the only woman going through this!  Start being part of pregnancy boards. I frequented TheBump.com.    Ask questions and get answers.  Many questions or feelings that you have already asked by other people.  Or just Google your question to get the answer.  Remember to find reliable sources! My friend from college became friends with a couple girls that were pregnant the same month she was.  They now go to each others birthday parties.  Here are 10 Things to Know Before Traveling with a Baby.  If you really want to get out, here are some tips for flying with a baby.  

12. Take Belly Pictures / Set up Baby Pictures

Remember your pregnancy by taking belly pictures each week  or month.  What a life changing event to remember!  Then put all the pictures together into one image to view the great changes your body has made.  If you want to get those o-so-cute baby  pintrest, they should be done in the first 2 weeks of the baby’s life.  This means you might want to decide and kind-of schedule an appointment before the birth.  You can create a board on  pintrest.com to show the photographer what type of pictures you would like. Here is a nursery vision board and the Finished Nursery.   

13. Choose a Baby Formula or Not?

Decide what baby formula you are going to use before your big day.  I didn’t think of this, and they gave my little one Gerber at the hospital.  Now that all the coupons are gone, I wish I went with a cheaper brand.  Even if you are going to try breastfeeding, they may give your baby formula at night.  Decide now so when they ask you after the craziness is over you have an answer.

14. De-Tag, Wash, and Sort Baby Clothes or Not?

De-tag, wash, and sort all baby clothes by size.  Put clothes in bins marked 3 month, 6 month, 9 month, and 12 month plastic containers. Or you may want to wait because you don’t know what size your baby will be each season.  Here is a Baby Cloths Chart if you have trouble understanding sizes.  Some things that we just loved are: Sophie the Giraffe – I know she was expensive, but this was the teether that our little girl used the most.  I think she like it because it was similar to a human hand.  Soft with different parts to chew on. Banana Tooth Brush– She loves chewing on this one too.  I hope this will help her in the steps to loving her brush her teeth.  Halo Sleep Sack – This is what our daughter slept in since night one!  We got 2 from the baby shower, then the hospital gave us one as we were leaving for a present.  Great gift!  Sleep Sheep – This sheep was given to us to our friends who were just first time parents themselves.  (They have a fun blog too).  Before every nap and every night we turn on this sheep.  We prefer the wave and rain sound.  I switch it up to the whale sound too.  Our daughter is getting big enough that we turns the sheep on herself sometimes too! and a Infant Car Seat – After you get the hang of it, car seats are not that bad.  They let you have your freedom as a new Mom! 

15. Walk, Walk, Walk

Try to walk as much as you can.  Then waddle to the end!  I even walked in the grocery store and couponed when it got cold.  They also have pregnancy workout DVD’s for each month, and the 5 months afterwords.  

16. Start Journal

Find a Journal and start writing.  I started journaling in high school.  

17. Birth Announcements

Choose a birth announcement from a website that you are going to select.  I selected shutterfly.com to create ours. Create a spreadsheet with the names and addresses of intended baby shower/birth announcement/thank you note recipients.  Print out Avery Easy Peel White Address Labels- two times, one for birth announcements, and another for thank you notes. We used the same addresses from our wedding.  We like to use these for Christmas cards too.  Another option would be to have everyone write their address on an envelope during the baby shower.  Here is a She is About to Pop Baby Shower theme and our 5 favorite baby shower gifts.  

18. Who Will Be in the Delivery Room?

Decide who you want to be on your team on the big day.  The only person you can 100% count on being there is you!  But planning for others and telling others no in advance should set you up for success.  Are you interested in a Husband Coached Birth? Is Hypno Birthing something you are interested in?  Would you like to ready about Faith-Based Births? The last book I will recommend is Your Best Birth which talks about many of your options.  

20. Buy a Larger Bra

You will need to deal with your milk coming in.  You will need some support here.  Also a tip, if you are going to try breastfeeding then decide it is not right for you, it may take a month or two to quit.  This was painful to me when I just wanted to relax and enjoy my new one. 

21. Create a Google Calendar for Baby

I don’t like clutter, (I wrote a book on that called 50 Things to Know to Downsize Your Life) so keeping  online calender for your child is a great way for keep track all the events of her life.  This is also a great place for medical information.  For example if the doctor asks when you changed over to solid food, you can find it on your child’s online calendar on your cell phone during the visit. You can also purchase a baby calendar or put one on your baby registry. 

 

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About Lisa Rusczyk
Lisa is the creator of the blog Charlie-The-Cavalier and His Friends, Family, and Home.  She is also the author of 50 Things to Know Before Having a Baby and 50 Things to Know Books.  Send Lisa Rusczyk and email at lbrennec@gmail.com.  
 The Insanity Workout is how I lost the baby weight and got back to my high school weight.  These workouts are great to keep you motivated to exercise while taking care of a baby.  I could just pause the DVD when I wanted to feed/change/play with the baby.  I also planned and portioned food ahead of time with these organized storage containers.  A great option if you are pregnant are these monthly workout DVDs.  Each month has a different workout. Here is a post on how I think I lost the baby weight.