There are moments in life then you should keep your words to yourself, but if you don’t speak out for yourself, who will?
There is a time in life for silence, but if you are sure of something you need to get it out, cause in real life saying the right thing in the right time is crucial. That’s way most of us start to hesitate, in fear of saying the wrong thing. You shouldn’t doubt something if you fell like you deserve or want it. There is a time for silence, but if you are sure of something you need to say it. The words we regret the most are the ones left unsaid, and you do not want a long list of regrets, because you didn’t speak out do you?
If you don’t know how to say something, prepare. Really think about what do you want to say, and the way you want to say it. You also need to think about how the other person/people will react and what your response to them could be. Great speakers often say that they need only 10 minutes to prepare a two hour speech, but 2 hours to prepare a 10 minutes speech
Practice in front of the mirror, or someone close to you. Always try to imagine the person/people you’re talking to. It’s better if you ask someone to listen to you and tell you their opinion.
Try to imagine the best and the worst case scenario of what could happen. They say we are our on worst critics, so it will probably go better then where your imagination leads you to.
Always stay positive. If you think positive you will feel positive, and of course better. Smile is contagious, so are thoughts. How you think will lead you on how to feel and behave, which will affect on the outcome.
Think about what you want to say and what kind of audience you have. Think about your goal, and what reaction you want. Try to imagine yourself as a listener and see if you are going in a good direction with what you’re trying to say.
Opening and final word of your speech are the most important. Commit to them a little bit more. Try to make a funny introduction that will immediately catch the attention of the audience. Remember that the good speech should be like a mini-skirt. Short enough to be interesting, but still long enough to cover the important parts.
The body language is what people use to catch and keep the attention of the listener. Teachers are told to use body language to keep students attention longer. But that doesn’t mean you should marc and run around the room, like a fly without a head. Essentially what you should do is follow the dynamics of the speech.
You can always make some kind of notes. It’s better if you talk and not read the whole speech out of the cards, but if you are nervous and cant remember them its okay. You can make little reminders in dashes or something in case you forget something and that will also make you feel a little bit better if you are nervous, because you won’t forget anything.
Use quotes. They will give a little more power to your speech, and they can even make you creative when you are writing or planning the speech. Quotes can’t turn out bad, or ruin the speech and even if someone doesn’t like it, you can always say that you didn’t write that.
Funny stories and jokes are the perfect way to grab the attention of your audience. If it’s a personal event you’re speaking at you can use old embarrassing stories. Just make sure that jokes and stories are always appropriate for the occasion.
Please read all 50 Tips and learn more about this book: 50 Things to Know Before Public Speaking by Lisa Rusczyk Ed.D.